As adults we must take responsibility for how we respond to our social environment and our home environment.  For us to make mature choices we need to continually have an ongoing education, which, can be a professional one through classes or we can always be updating our reading and listening to information from many different sources.  We must acquire critical thinking skills and so forth. As adults we are responsibile for children, who are limited by age and experience,  to help them make choices and sometimes to make choices for them.  Today in our society we cannot be a lackadaisical person, not for a minute.  As a parent, grandparent, retired teacher and concerned citizen I know not all of the answers.  I depend on many professional people for their expertise.  I feel like whatever happened to Cho ( VT shooter) that made him think he was somehow solving his problems by what he did, that his message would make sense to us--I cannot fathom that it could be any single person's fault.  He was part of this society where many folks observed him: public schools employees , medical people, relatives, friends, ministers and more.  He was 23 and was very mentally sick. At this point, it is so diffulcult to comprend this horrindus thing,  all I can think of is I have to strive to know what the right thing to do for my family and my community.  My prayers are for all to be kind to one another, show compassion, be patient with one another.  But do something, so such violence will stop.  I believe we can do it!

Shame on us if we observe something or someone or feel like something should be done and we should speak out and we don't--no matter what the situation is.  It is better to err on the side of caution.